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What is Surrogate  tapping? Surrogate EFT involves one person performing EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) on himself or herself for the benefit of another person. This is especially useful for parents who want to affect the energy systems of their children.
Personally, I’ve tapped on myself for a variety of issues for a
variety of people. The most successful has been when someone is having
an allergy attack. Just a round or two of tapping on myself clears up
their symptoms!
One of my favorite stories is when I used EFT for my
brother-in-law's allergies. Greg came over for a bike ride one morning,
sneezing almost non-stop. Once we started biking, I asked him what was
going on. He told me he was having an allergy attack - but he didn't
know what was causing the attack.
I asked him if he would let me use EFT to address his allergies. He
replied, sure, but how are you going to to that? We are riding bikes?
Once I told him I could tap on myself for his symptoms, he agreed.
So there we were, riding down the street, with me tapping on myself
saying, "Even though Greg is having an allergic reaction to
whatever he is having this allergic reaction to, I deeply and
completely love and accept him. Even though Greg is having an allergic
reaction to whatever he is having this allergic reaction to, he deeply
and completely accepts himself. Even though Greg is having an allergic
reaction to whatever he is having this allergic reaction to, I deeply
and completely love and accept myself."
While tapping on the points, I repeated, "Greg's allergic
reaction."
After two rounds of Shortcut EFT, Greg's sneezing stopped. Two blocks
later, he commented on how his nose cleared up and his eyes were no
longer stinging! (Note I did not address symptoms separately - in this
case, addressing "this allergic reaction" globally worked! However, if
you find a global statement does not give you relief, then I suggest
you start addressing each symptom separately until you get relief.)
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An important thing to remember for successful surrogate tapping is
to get your emotions and energies clear before trying to tap for
someone else’s issues. If you are a parent and are upset or stressed
about the behavior of your child, using EFT to balance your emotions
will allow you to more clearly understand and treat their issues,
either with surrogate or direct tapping.
While performing surrogate EFT, the setup Statement may take the
form,
• “Even though (name of person) has this problem, I deeply and
completely accept (him/her/their name,)” or
• “Even though (name of person) has this problem, I deeply and
completely accept myself,” or
• “Even though (name of person) has this problem, (he/she/name of
person) deeply and completely accepts (himself/herself.)”
Use your best judgment, your intuition, or try all three approaches.
Bottom line is, use what works best for you!
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Often using EFT to address and change your reaction to the other
person’s behavior shift their behavior as well! You can read more about
this in the article “Stop Fights Before They Start” in the Articles
section of my www.tapintoheaven.com
website. The direct link is http://www.tapintoheaven.com/2Articles/anger2.shtml
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One of the questions I am asked most often about using Surrogate EFT
is, "Do I need to get permission from the other person?"
If you think about it, isn't this similar to praying, or sending
good wishes to another? Do you ask permission to pray for someone else?
Are your prayers always answered? As long as your motivation and
intention is for the other person's best and highest interest, I
believe that doing Surrogate EFT for them is fine. In the dimension of
energy, they have a choice to accept help and healing - no matter what
the source - or not.
On Gary Craig’s web site – www.emofree.com
- there are case histories of surrogate, or proxy, tapping.
The following is an article by Gary Craig, developer of EFT,
discussing Surrogate EFT and getting permission:
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**Can we do EFT surrogately or through intention? If so, do we
need permission? ** by Gary Craig, www.emofree.com
Many practitioners report impressive successes through applying EFT
in this manner. In my experience, the results are not as consistent as
physically tapping but the reports are well beyond mere coincidence.
The question of needing permission is an interesting one. Here is an
article I wrote to our email list on this subject.
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Hi Everyone,
Our web site contains a growing number of successes using EFT
surrogately and/or with intention. It would take a master of denial to
read them and not be intrigued by the anecdotal evidence. The common
question that arises about this regards asking permission to do this
sort of healing work. Shouldn't we ask the client first? If for some
reason that's not feasible, then shouldn't we ask a Higher Power for
permission to proceed? And if neither of those is done, shouldn't we at
least first recite some permission generating statement like, "I offer
this healing work only if it is in the highest and best good of the
person receiving it."
Good thoughts. All of them. They come from a caring place and, whether
or not you agree with the necessity for doing this, the individuals
choosing to go this route should be honored for their loving
commitment. I don't know what's right here but I've been a party to
this conversation on many occasions and thus offer below some
interesting viewpoints I've run across (as well as some of my own).
First, some people (a minority) have given me detailed procedures for
getting permission. These procedures are put forward as MUSTs for
everyone to follow. Otherwise, it seems, you will surely damage
someone. When I asked where these procedures came from, they responded
that they came from "personal understandings." When I asked for a list
of specific damages that people had encountered as a result of well
intentioned surrogate/intentional tapping (done without permission),
there was not a single incident offered. Interestingly, these varying
procedures each contained a DIFFERENT list of MUSTs.
Therein lies a weakness, I think. To me, a MUST is a MUST. Thus if list
#1 contains a true MUST then it must be on list #2 and list #3, mustn't
it?
Otherwise, how can it be a MUST? I didn't find this method very
compelling.
Other people believe that you must always ask permission of the client
unless they are unable to grant it. Examples of those who are "unable"
might be infants, animals, elderly people suffering from dementia,
mentally retarded people, people who speak other languages, etc. This
way, you can get direct permission most of the time. For those people
unable to grant permission, it can still be obtained by asking a Higher
Power. The permission asking questions I have heard go pretty much like
this, "Is it in the highest and best interest of this client for me to
do this work surrogately?" This technique is used by some practitioners
for ALL their surrogate/intentional work. They never ask direct
permission of the client. Instead they ask a Higher Power and proceed
accordingly.
Many people have found this meritorious and I'm always in favor of
procedures that work.
However, the logic of this bothers my left brain a bit. Why? Because I
don't know anyone (myself included) who is able to get 100% pure
Guidance. No one, in my experience, is able to consistently (always)
discern whether a given "answer" comes from a Higher Power or is just
their own internal chatter. Yet they assume the answer is accurate and
proceed (or don't proceed) accordingly. Do they have "real
permission"--or not? Or do they have it a good percentage of the time
and that is good enough? Interestingly, those who do this report good
results.
You know what's interesting about all this? I have never heard of
anyone being damaged by well intentioned surrogate/intentional work of
any kind--EFT or otherwise. That doesn't mean it hasn't happened. I
know there are stories regarding negative forms of Voodoo (hardly well
intentioned, by the way) and stuff like that and so maybe it's
possible. But I know a lot of people in the healing professions and
over 1,000 clients and I have never heard of a single case where
someone was disadvantaged in any way by well intentioned
surrogate/intentional work. I have, however, heard many reports of
successes by using this "way out" procedure. From all I can tell, these
surrogate attempts either provide worthwhile benefits or fall on their
face. But they don't cause harm. It's as though our efforts are stopped
if, indeed, we are treading in areas which are not for the client's
highest good.
This is not to suggest, however, that getting permission isn't a good
idea. I get permission myself but I don't do it in a formal way.
Rather, I just get an intuitive notion regarding whether or not to
proceed. This is my form of asking for Guidance. I lean on this
intuitive notion even when I'm in a one-on-one session (and obviously
have client permission). It is continually guiding me as to which
avenue to pursue with the client. In our advanced tapes I consistently
put forward the notion that effective healing is done THROUGH US rather
than BY US and the major skill involved is to GET OURSELVES OUT OF THE
WAY. I find this much more useful and efficient than formally asking
permission. True Guidance, some would argue, is better than permission
because it is much more informed than both client and practitioner.
Another issue along these lines is the potential intrusion into one's
privacy if we try to "fix" them without their permission. It's also a
big rapport breaker if they have beliefs against this sort of thing and
discover later that you were doing this.
This brings me to a related question that has been sitting within my
psyche ever since this permission debate came to my attention (several
years ago). It's an obvious question but I've never heard anyone voice
it. Here it is.
If it is important to get permission for our well intentioned
healing work then shouldn't it be just as important, if not more so, to
get permission for our negative intentions? For our angers at others?
For our wishes that someone loses while someone else wins? For the
mental rejections we might level at others?
Yet how often do we do get permission for such thoughts? Does anyone
EVER get such permission? Or do we just have the thought/intention
without regard to the highest good of our "target?"
Have you ever stopped yourself before having an angry thought/intention
about someone and asked their permission to have it? I wonder what
would happen if each of us did this. My guess is that we would have a
lot fewer angry thoughts and a bit more peace in this world.
So where do we land with all this? Have we come up with a conclusion
about asking permission?
I think the consensus is that it's a good idea. However, how it should
be done--and when--and under what circumstances is up to debate or
personal decision.
I wish you Peace (which, by the way, is intentional and without your
permission).
Smiles, Gary
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