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The Basic Recipe of  EFT™ is a powerful device, about 80% effective. An even higher ratio is possible when you know how to handle impediments.
1) BE MORE SPECIFIC
One of the most common errors made by EFT™ newcomers is using broad
labels for problems and then being discouraged with the result. Such
issues such as "I don't have good relationships," "I can't lose
weight," or "My father always abused me" may seem specific but are
actually very general, or global. Finding SPECIFICS for each of these
problems brings up separate ASPECTS that are contributing to the issue.
These aspects can be treated and eliminated one by one until the entire
foundation supporting the issue collapses.
For example, one might say "Even though I have this feeling of
inadequacy in relationships, I deeply and completely accept myself,"
might prove more helpful that "Even though I have a pattern of bad
relationships." When working with weight issues, you can address
certain urges or unhealthy eating patterns, or even the anxiety
underlying the weight problem. And "Even though I have this anger
about my father embarrassing me at my 15th birthday party," will
clear up that issue quicker than "Even though my father abused me."
Often seeing progress with specific aspects provides incentive to keep
working on the issue.
2) TREAT ASPECTS SEPARATELY
Aspects sometimes may seem like apparent impediments because they
seem to impede progress. Sometimes as we treat an emotion, another
aspect of the same problem arises. Each aspect is a new portion of the
problem that needs addressing before complete relief. Be aware of
switching aspects! Sometimes, when tapping on pain, for example, the
pain may have diminished but soreness or tightness remains in its
place. The soreness or stiffness is another aspect that needs to be
addressed separately of the pain. When emotions or aspects change, keep
tapping and change the setup Statement and Reminder Phrase to reflect
the new emotion, or aspect.
3) BE PERSISTENT
Whether working with a specific aspect or with a general issue,
persistence is sometimes the key to success. Although you may see
"instant" success with EFT™ with some issues, many times creativity and
patience are the difference between failure and success. The key to
real success is to get the issue to a 0, not just stop at a 2 or a 3.
Be flexible, follow emotions or pains as they change during a session
as this is often symbolic of new aspects or issues needing treatment
during a session. Asking "What does this remind you of?" "When was
the first time you felt like this?" or even "What in your life
is a pain in your neck?" (when treating neck pain) often brings up
aspects that are contributing to the problem.
Gwen Bonnell can be contacted via her website
http://tapintoheaven.com
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